If someone tells me they’re queer I believe them. If someone tells me they’re straight I believe them. This isn’t that hard

What so like a cis het allo person can just call themselves queer now?

What problem, exactly, are you so concerned about? I don’t know if you’ve noticed but queerness is still very much marginalized, it’s not as “trendy” as people try to act, and straight people aren’t tripping over themselves to call themselves queer. And if you’re worried about being “tricked” by “infiltrators”, like, you know those people can just say that they’re gay? Like they can lie? They’re not going to try and “sabotage” queer spaces by saying “hey I don’t have any marginalized orientations or identities but I’m still totally queer”, they’d just say “hey I’m super gay, love people of the same gender”

What, concretely, are you worried about happening? What’s the worst thing that could happen due to inclusivity? Because the worst things that can happen due to gatekeeping are very well-known, and I’m much more scared of that

It’s less that it’s trendy and more like, I like having my queer-only spaces. Also queer is a bad word. All our words are bad words. They aren’t oppressed, and for a cishetallo to use a slur as their identity feels a little demeaning to me. Like I dont hate them of course but the A was never for Ally . It’s not queer to be normal

Interacting with them is cool and having them at pride I’m not opposed to but as a person who’s queer it does feel like they’re kinda dressing it up

Im gonna be honest Ive never seen people like that but like, I’m allowed to not like it

I’m not going to distrust and exclude people because of a problem you made up. If someone tells me they’re queer, I believe them

“When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time” is a really popular thing to say on Tumblr when we’re talking about people being assholes or whatever, but people never seem to follow that through to the logical conclusion of actually believing people when they really tell you who they are.

What queer only spaces are hets lying about to get into? Like it is either straight girls being openly straight at gay bars or conservatives dressing up as woman to say “ooooh, if I SAY I’m trans then you have to do whatever I say, right? Call me Princess Lovely Tits! I’m very smart at owning libs!”

Like, I’ve NEVER gone to a queer nerdy event and seen anyone “obviously cis” trying to get in. Why would they?

Also, to the original Anon-

“if you have no criteria for being queer, how can you say anyone isnt?” That’s it! You got it! That’s the fucking point!

If the mythical leagues of cishet allo people out there pretending to be queer did actually exist… good. That’s more boots on the ground at a protest, more votes at the ballot, more public pressure for acceptance and more eyes keeping everyone safe. I wish being queer was trendy and cool and easy and something everyone wanted to be, I wish tons and tons of outsiders were putting on the flags and locking arms with us, that world would be so much fucking easier to live in. Exclusionists out here imagining a vastly better world and going “noooo what if that was real? We’d better put up bullshit barriers and scrutinise everyone and push people out if they don’t bare their soul convince me personally that they can match up to my ever-changing bullshit rules! Otherwise that might happen!”

if someone is so lonely and sad that they’re lying their way into queer spaces to gain access to a community, and instead of just being nice to this one unusual guy, your response is to ramp up being a colossal jerk to everyone else in the community…

why would we kick out the poor liar who just needs some kindness, instead of the unrepentant asshole who refuses to believe in kindness at all?